On the first RBC forum there was a discussion about pronouns. Pan joined the forum after I had been banned and posted to that topic, but of course I was no longer there and wasn't able to respond. Had I still been around, this is the sentence I would have responded to (my login there was Folkie):
Pan wrote: "However, though our society presents maleness as normative behavior, I do not accept Folkie's premise that "he" is a gender neutral pronoun. I understand the desire not to be labeled "she" or "it" but insisting upon "he" reinforces the patriarchal valuing of all things male."
First of all, I had not said that "he" was a gender neutral pronoun. I'd said that it was the default pronoun and that until recently it had been used as the traditionally inclusive pronoun. That began to change when feminists noticed that although it was theoretically supposed to be inclusive, it reality it excluded females.
In order for society to present something as normative, it is set as the default. Until feminists began to protest, "he" was the generic or default pronoun. When I was in school we were taught that there were three types of pronouns: 1. The masculine or inclusive (examples being "he" or "him"). 2. The feminine or diminutive (examples being "she" or "her". and 3. The neuter or indeterminate (examples being "it" or "that").
The earliest attempts by feminists to replace the generic "he," with either "he and she," or "she," was met with fierce resistance and ridicule by some college professors who rightfully claimed that it wasn't important for them to go out of their way to make specific reference to females when there might be one, none, or at most only a few females in any given class. Only as females began to be admitted in greater numbers to higher education was the concept taken seriously. Although females
appear to have made steady gains in U.S. higher education since 1900, by the 1960s they were still
no more than 20% of those receiving professional degrees.
In the '70s, females began to resent the fact that feminine honorifics like "Mrs." and "Miss" were based upon the female's marital status, while the masculine honorific, "Mr." was the same for both married and unmarried males. If it was no longer necessary for females to be referred to in terms of their sexual availability (already taken in marriage or not), then why was it necessary for females to be referred to in terms of sex at all? Why couldn't everyone have become "Mr." without regard to marital status
or sex?
The same thing happened with pronouns. Upon recognizing that the traditionally inclusive "he" wasn't truly inclusive, feminists began to insist that the exclusive or diminutive pronouns be used in combination with the traditionally inclusive pronouns, to denote that females were actually present ("he and she" or "she and he"), or that the diminutive form ("she") be used as the generic. Both usages have become common. As with honorifics, there was no consideration given to the possibility of the traditionally inclusive pronoun ("he") being used so that it was
actually inclusive.
Once a society presents something as the normative or default status, any other status becomes deviant by definition. In
The Creation of Patriarchy, Prof. Gerda Lerner explained that you can't discriminate against a group unless you have a way to distinguish them from other groups. Pronouns and honorifics are the means by which patriarchy distinguishes between males and females when they are not present and visible, so as to ensure that they are not accorded equal treatment. Without the ability to distinguish females from males at all times and in all circumstances, there could be too many incidents of accidental equality for male supremacy to remain tenable.
It is indisputable that we are a patriarchal society and that females are discriminated against. When groups are asked to grade essays, the same essays are consistently given higher grades by both males and females when they appear to have been written by a male than when they appear to have been written by a female. It only takes a single indicator such as a traditionally masculine or feminine name, honorific, or pronoun, to trigger disparate treatment. It is not the quality of the writing, but the knowledge (or assumption) about the writer's sex, that controls
how the writing is evaluated.
There's no rocket science involved in equality. There is more equality in a society where people are treated equally at least some of the time, than in a society where people are never treated equally, even if total equality is not achievable. What harm could it possibly do to society if all essay questions had to be graded without any gender role identifiers attached to them, so that only the quality of the writing could be judged? Would patriarchy be destroyed? Would civilization fall? My theory is yes, they would.
But before I explain why I think that pronomial fusion could save the planet as surely as atomic fission could destroy it, I want to briefly review the potential effects of pronouns on biological sex and on socially constructed gender roles. It goes without saying that there would be no physical changes to an individual or group if they were referred to differently. But there certainly could be enormous social and cultural changes if a patriarchal society was less able to distinguish between males and females and therefore less able to discriminate based on sex. For a system to be considered totalitarian, it must have absolute power, and anything that diminishes that power changes the nature of the system. Only the ability to distinguish between the sexes at all times, makes it possible for a patriarchal society to discriminate on the basis of sex at all times. So why do those who claim to be seeking a more egalitarian society, insist on retaining the linguistic indicators that make totalitarian patriarchy possible?
A quick google turned up an online copy of Douglas Hofstadter's essay, "
A Person Paper on Purity in Language." Hofstadter's analogy makes it perfectly clear that sex-based pronouns are no more necessary or rational than race-based pronouns. I've used the analogy of African-Americans in the U.S. in a similar way. Imagine if, instead of adult black males taking offense at being called, "boy," they had said that while they didn't want to be called "boy" any more, they also didn't want to be called "Mister" or "Sir," since those terms were used to refer to white males and they didn't want to become invisible or lose their black identity, so they had insisted that a new term be invented, such as "Bister" or "Bir," to replace the world "boy" when used to refer to adult black males. Absurd, isn't it? Yet that's exactly what feminists did with "Ms."
I'm a philosophical anti-civilizationist. Although I do hypocritically avail myself of many benefits of civilization, I know their true cost in the despoliation of the planet. I believe that humanity and our habitat have been brought to the brink of extinction by the patriarchal concept of property that commodifies both people and things. More than 5,000 years of patriarchy and civilization have made both appear to be inevitable and invincible. But a chain is only as strong as its weakest link.
Animal rights and environmental activists have suggested that one way to revalue plants and animals would be to refer to them as living things rather than as objects, that is, as "he" and "she," rather than as "it." The way in which we refer to things is a good indicator of how much we value them. To the extent that we can eliminate unnecessary divisiveness, we create unity.
So back to Pan's statement, "I understand the desire not to be labeled "she" or "it" but insisting upon "he" reinforces the patriarchal valuing of all things male."
That doesn't leave much in the way of options. Perhaps a new term should be invented so that it can be used solely to refer to gender role deviates? Now that there are more female doctors, lawyers, and engineers, should we call them doctoresses, lawyeresses, and enginerettes, so as not to reinforce the patriarchal valuing of all things male?
Pronouns, in my experience, are the atomic forces that bind together the molecules of patriarchy. Without a way to reference a person's genital status every time we reference a person, patriarchy would begin to lose the ability to discriminate against all females on the basis of sex at all times. Without that ability, the entire structure would crumble. Not all at once, but little by little as discrimination became more and more difficult.
If an injury to one is an injury to all, then an insult to one is an insult to all. I have no fears whatsoever that the human sex drive might diminish without gender roles. It is one of the strongest forces in our lives, it existed long before gender roles were imagined, and if we can avert the destruction of the planet, it will continue long after gender roles have disappeared. There would be no difficulty in referencing an individual's sex when it was necessary to do so, as we could simply say, "He is female," or "he is male." But we would no longer be forced to refer to people in terms of genital status when it was not necessary, so we would no longer have to perpetuate patriarchy by distinguishing between people on the basis of sex every time we referred to them.
As a native English speaker first learning Spanish, I thought it absurd that inanimate objects had to be identified as either male or female to accomodate the language structure. The English language has the convenience of being able to refer to inanimate objects without regard to sex. Our coffee mugs aren't feminine and our champagne glasses aren't masculine, they're just cups and glasses.
I grew up in the nuclear age. For most of my life I've been aware that at any moment, I and everyone around me for miles, could be killed by a single bomb that would not distinguish on the basis of sex, race, age, or any other factor. Since we're likely to die equally, why shouldn't we live equally? But I believe that it is patriarchy, the subjugation of females by males, that prevents us from becoming an ecologically viable species able to control our reproductive rate in accordance with available resources and have a sustainable lifestyle without periodic overpopulation peaks and wars. So I believe that if we can abolish patriarchy, we would not be facing the inevitable extinction common to all ecologically nonviable species. If I am correct, and if pronouns really are the binding force holding patriarchy together, we might really have a chance.
Of course I could be wrong. It is possible that we could eliminate sex-based pronouns and patriarchy might continue just as before. I know what we might gain if I'm right. Can you tell me what we might lose if I'm wrong?